AUC Discusses Gender Norms and Upbringing in SpeakUp Dialog Series

"Upbringing starts with the image a woman has of herself. It's how you see yourself that will reflect on how you bring up your children," said Sara Aziz, founder and president of Safe Kids.

Aziz was one of the speakers at AUC's SpeakUp Dialog Series: From the Playground to the Living Room: How Are We Socialized Around Gender Norms?"

The SpeakUp Dialog Series aims to raise awareness of sexual harassment as an important social issue and support national and global college campus efforts. This session discussed the factors that shape our expectations of each gender and how far back the ideas we've established around gender go. It also explored common gender roles and stereotypes in today's society and how they are formed.

Other speakers were Hania Sholkamy '85 '89, anthropologist and associate professor at AUC's Social Research Center, and Fatma Khafagy (MA '77), coordinator at the Arab Women Network for Parity and Solidarity (Tha'era). The session was moderated by Samar Negida '11 '14, journalist and anchor. 

"One woman shouldn’t be working on her own. Women should work together. When they do, they create change," Khafagy said.

AUC President Francis Ricciardone, who joined the event virtually, highlighted AUC's critical responsibility and role in participating in the national conversation about harassment and supporting it.

"While I am proud of AUC's role, it is not something we can be complacent about," he said. "At AUC, we have redoubled our efforts on our campus. ... We have AUC SpeakUp that we have launched this summer to take our own anti-harassment efforts to a new level. Fighting sexual harassment is not a women's issue, but a human rights issue, as it applies to men as well as women, where many need to be educated on the rights of women and protected from bullying and harassment.” 

Ricciardone emphasized that AUC has a zero-tolerance policy for sexual harassment with the Anti-Harassment and Non-Discrimination Policy and has an online reporting system that enables any person who experienced harassment or discrimination to report a complaint. Additionally, the University is providing mandatory online anti-harassment training sessions to its community members.

Speakers discussed the different forms of harassment in society. Khafagy said harassment doesn't necessarily need to be sexually based, pointing out the different types of harassment, whether based on color, race, religion or difference in social class.

"Some call these forms of harassment, and some call them bullying. However, not accepting others might lead to harassment and also violence," she said.

Sholkamy also said that harassment is one form of unwanted violence.

"It doesn't only happen in the streets, but it could happen at home and also between partners," she said.

On the other hand, Aziz highlighted the importance of understanding power harassment, which is where "one is threatened or persuaded under the pretext of love into accepting harassment.”

Upbringing is key 

The speakers agreed that breaking gender stereotypes in the early years is key to combating harassment. 

"Many families in rural areas still discriminate between their sons and daughters," Khafaga said, adding that bringing up boys who are free to act as they please while placing severe restrictions on daughters reinforces their entitlement to practice violence against other females as they grow up.

Aziz brought up that harassment is a two-way street and affects boys as well. In many cases that she has witnessed, she said young boys who have been harassed couldn't communicate to their parents what they have experienced.

"Due to certain stereotypes in society that reinforce telling young boys, for example, 'Men don't cry,' boys bottle up their feelings and don't share what they go through with their parents," Aziz said. 

COVID-19 and harassment

The speakers spoke brought up that the pandemic has had a toll on many victims, with people being forced to stay home for longer periods of time. 

"Many found themselves locked in with their abusers," Aziz said. She added that 93% of teenagers and children are victims of their family members, neighbors and friends. 

"There is no doubt that COVID-19 has increased violence against women, especially online. As more people used the internet, violence and harassment against women increased in the form of blackmail or threats of harm," Khafaga said.

While Aziz acknowledged the rise in harassment during this time, she also made note of the different awareness programs and initiatives that came out of it as well.

"While the figures started to increase during COVID-19, there are also a lot of awareness programs, like the National Council for Women's latest campaign on Instagram. We need to acknowledge that there was an increase in the level of awareness. Egyptian families are now ready, at least, to listen to their sons and daughters. … It became a gift and a blessing rather than just a difficulty."

Insights into fighting harassment

Harsher punishment for sexual assault crimes is a must, according to Khafaga. She added that the process to report harassment cases should be easier for women and girls, especially since there are no accurate numbers of the actual cases of harassment. She also pointed out the need to increase the helplines for victims of harassment and the safe houses for abuse victims. 

"For every 100,000 people, there should be a safe house for women," Khafaga said, stressing that women should work together to create change.

Aziz stressed the need to change the idea that we should be ashamed of talking about sexual harassment.

"It is the harasser who should be ashamed rather than us," she said.

Aziz also sees the great need to provide training in schools for all individuals who interact with children.

"We need to train them on harassment, how to spot children who have been harassed and how to provide them with the help they need. By doing so, we raise awareness," she said.

When it comes to the role of families, Sholkamy said that times have changed. She believes parents can no longer preach to their children but instead need to understand them.

"We live all our lives on the internet, and it's no longer just the parents that are bringing up children. The role of the family has diminished. Awareness is building my son's or daughter's confidence and building a space for us to talk. We need to have channels to talk to our children without assuming that we have the right answers," she said, emphasizing the need to hire and continuously train counselors at schools to help students discuss their problems and reach out for help.

Over the next six months, the Dialogue Series will address several issues related to sexual harassment, including “Portrayals of Gender in Media and Film,” “How Do We Make Public Spaces Safe for Women?”, “Are We Safe in Cyberspace?”, “Combating Harassment on University Campuses”, “Safe, Inclusive and Diverse Workspaces”, and “Legal Framework and Violence Against Women.”